A woman grieving

Grief and Loss

There will be moments of deep resistance and still, inklings of greater and greater ease, and great inclusivity – to the part of you you want to know.
To find ways to be together with people who truly care about you – even in moments of real heart break.
Use this time, if you can, regardless how fleeting, deeply, sincerely – do not squander it.

I see the best in you.

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Dirge Without Music

by Edna St. Vincent Millay

I am not resigned to the shutting away of loving hearts in the hard ground.
So it is, and so it will be, for so it has been, time out of mind:
Into the darkness they go, the wise and the lovely. Crowned
With lilies and with laurel they go; but I am not resigned.

Lovers and thinkers, into the earth with you.
Be one with the dull, the indiscriminate dust.
A fragment of what you felt, of what you knew,
A formula, a phrase remains,—but the best is lost.

The answers quick and keen, the honest look, the laughter, the love,—
They are gone. They are gone to feed the roses. Elegant and curled
Is the blossom. Fragrant is the blossom. I know. But I do not approve.
More precious was the light in your eyes than all the roses in the world.

Down, down, down into the darkness of the grave
Gently they go, the beautiful, the tender, the kind;
Quietly they go, the intelligent, the witty, the brave.
I know. But I do not approve. And I am not resigned.


Ilene Wolf, MFT is a CBT Trained, TEAM certified, Drama Therapist.
Ilene won The California Marriage and Family Therapist Education Foundation Award (2012) and has taught
throughout the Bay Area, including at UC Berkeley and The Mental Research Institute (MRI).
Ilene is a certified Hypnotherapist and a member of the Bay Area Milton Erickson Institute.
Ilene has been a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for over thirty years.


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415 420 3619

You will begin to feel hopeful, confident, motivated,
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